December 19, 2014

Singlehood // guest post

Singleness: a word that has so much negativity, loneliness,  and questions. What no boyfriend? She must be ugly. She has no future.
 ‘Everyone else’ is in a relationship right now, so why shouldn’t I be?  Is something wrong with me?

That is how the world views singlehood. But I view it as a joyous soul searching period.

I am a HS Senior and have never been on a date. And I haven't been looking.

"High school is about finding your bridesmaids not your husband"

Single is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on anyone except God.  It’s a person who is trusting God with their future, with their life, and with their love story.

These early years when your on the peak of adulthood is a time when you should be finding who you are. These are the years of possibility and growing and exploring. These are the years when you find out what it means to be you. When you form your own opinions and make your own decisions.

There's joy in being a single young woman.

You don't have to go through all that heart ache and confusion of having a boyfriend who he himself hasn't found what it means to be a young man.

You don't have to date in High School or College to feel fulfilled. You don't have to settle down in a serious relationship or jump from multiple casual ones. 
Embrace your singlehood. Because you won't get it back. 
Being single is not about putting your life on hold for that perfect relationship.
It is a time where you can grow into your role in society.
A time where you can travel.
A time where you can do mission work.
A time where you can invest in your friendships.
A time where you can dedicate yourself to your studies.
A time where  you can find new hobbies.
A time where you can get to know "you".
A time where you can have Netflix nights.
A time where you can go on an impromptu trip with friends. 
A time where you can prepare your heart for that future relationship.
There's joy in being single. The grace is in finding it.


  1. How I wish I would have stumbled upon this blog post years ago while in HS! I bet it will be so encouraging to those who are struggling with living a meaningful singlehood. I discovered that it was (sometimes still is) so selfish of me to expect a man to fulfill those desires that only our Savior and Lover can. And that quote is so true. I had all my HS best friends be my bridesmaids...not a single college one! ;-) Lol. It's funny how that works sometimes.

  2. LOVED this post, Grace! These years of singlehood are such a blessing.

  3. Amen. As a HS graduate currently working my way towards college, it is really nice to be reminded that there are other young women facing the same struggles and trusting in The Lord to pull them through. This was a beautiful post.